I think if Unionguy came to me on Monday and said he wanted to explore things between us for real, I’d have to say let’s see. I’d feel like I need to explore things with date dude first because, so far, he’s really got it going on. He likes me, he’s nice but not weak, he’s respectful but not a doormat, he’s good but not irritating. I like him. I don’t know him yet but what I know I like, and the more I know the more I like. I’m not in a rush and he isn’t either. But he makes me feel good, and important, and pretty. And not secondary. I like that. It’s a very important part of a relationship for me, and not one UG has been interested in bringing to the table so far. How is that supposed to be my problem?